I just thought I ought to clear a particular viewpoint up while I still can, owing to my recent increased activity (and I suppose “success”, given that I’ve been receiving messages) on OkCupid. I also came to the realisation that I have to do a better job of getting my points across and arguing my cases. I’ve been listening to Tom Leykis clips on Youtube, as part of my recent engrossment in MRA, and realised that it’s almost irrelevant what your stance is, as long as you can back yourself up.
Continue reading Truth Or Silent Treatment?
[ originally posted Jan 17, 2010 @ 11:59 ]
This post is mostly unedited, because most of what I’ve originally said has proven to be true. One person, who shall not be named, managed to demonstrate all six of these in a single interaction.
Before I started writing this post, I had to think of a convenient name or acronym I could use to refer to certain kinds of people. Wayne Dyer once used the acronym NLP for what he called a “No Limit Person”, and women have the convenient term “weirdo” or “freak” for anyone who has a personality they don’t agree with. (Men have all kinds of terms for certain kinds of women.)
In the end, I opted for the acronym SCPP, standing for so-called positive person.
So-called positive people, or SCPPs, are poisonous and toxic people: they are actually what we’d call negative people in disguise. They’re those people who go around labelling others as either “positive” or “negative”, and usually claim to be “positive” people – while saying and doing arguably “negative” things. They differ from vanilla negative people (and negative thinkers) in that they have an unhealthily high regard for themselves, and a generally low regard for at least certain kinds of other people, if not everybody else.
SCPPs share exactly the same traits as “negative people”, but from my experience here are some traits that I’ve identified as being common among SCPPs.
Continue reading Six Habits of a So-Called Positive Person
These days, the most common form of rejection is through silent treatment. It’s a lot easier for someone to just “disappear” than actually face people they aren’t interested in.
I say, good for these people – at least they’re being honest about the kind of people they are (read: cowards). But although I have voiced my opinions about people who use silent treatment, I’ve found that I’d much rather have this form of rejection, over the dark alternative: canned lines.
Canned lines are those trite statements people make when rejecting someone, in the name of “not trying to hurt their feelings” – but really they’re only interested in making an exit, no matter how dirty that exit is made. These people are also implying that there is something wrong with the person receiving them.
The thing about canned lines, if you hear them often enough, is that they’re recited word for word. The first time you hear them you might be okay with it, but after the tenth time you start to wonder what’s really going on. By the hundredth time you’ll suspect that someone’s lying.
So without further ado, Drew presents his top five most bullshit rejection lines – all of which have been fed to him at some point, and on numerous occasions.
Continue reading Top 5 Most Bulls**t Rejection Lines
For the first time in a long time, I genuinely thought I was going insane. It wasn’t the first time that I thought I’d eventually end up in a padded cell or solitary confinement, but somehow it felt like it’s the closest I’ve been.
(Mental note: watching almost four seasons of Oz back to back doesn’t seem to have helped matters.)
But if I have appeared to be insane, or at least mentally deranged this week, it’s because I’m angry with myself. I’m angry because I chose to go against my instinct – my gut feeling – and it backfired.
Continue reading Trust Your Instinct