Why I’ve Turned My Back On MGTOW (and really went my own way).

Some of you know I used to make YouTube videos, mainly talking about my experiences with females, things I often thought about and tried to find answers to, and wondering what we (as men) could do to turn things around, in the face of a feminised culture.

It began after I stumbled upon a response to a Steve Wilkos show. At the time the whole MRA/MGTOW (Men’s Rights Activism/Men Going Their Own Way) thing was a breath of fresh air: it was the first time in a very long time that I felt like someone else could relate to things I’d gone through. Even more amazing was that there was some kind of underground movement on YouTube and elsewhere.

I got involved on the MGTOW side, partly as a way to vent my frustrations with females and our feminised culture, but mostly to offer my perspective as a social reject and involuntary celibate (“incel”). Admittedly, part of me wanted to become one of these YouTube celebrities as a result, but everything I did was with the idea that something would eventually happen: that a bunch of us men would get together and make changes, whether it was going after a particular misandric law or construct, or something as basic as starting a men’s social group.

Unfortunately the disillusionment set in, when it became obvious that YouTube relevance – and being seen to be an expert in certain areas – was more important to people than taking action.

From my perspective, the fall began when females introduced themselves as men’s rights advocates: they tended to overshadow many of the long-standing male speakers, and in many cases quickly became part of the “elite” on YouTube. All of a sudden, those hardened Internet activists who distrusted women became admirers. (This is referred to as hypoagency.)
As you can imagine, when I voiced my concerns about females being part of a men’s movement – solely because they had been shown to distract the movement – I got pounced on.

Then, as there became a clear separation between MRA and MGTOW, people started to accuse others of not being “real” MGTOWs, based on arbitrary rules and the idea that men should completely opt out of relationships and marriage. Leykis 101 was hailed as the new MGTOW standard: now it wasn’t so much about male independence, as it was about “pumping and dumping” as many women as possible. The terms “alpha” and “beta” male were often thrown around for good measure.

Soon after that came men shaming other men for not being attractive to women or getting laid – just like the feminists – until we had MGTOW 2.0: another form of PUA (or Pick Up Artistry).

Having been accused of not being a “real” MGTOW, I pre-empted the devolution by creating my own acronym, called MOHO (standing for Man On His Own, in relation to my involuntarily solitary lifestyle). Because MOHO is my own acronym, and I only intended for it to apply to me, no-one else can define what it is and isn’t.

My whole thing about being involved with MRA/MGTOW was wanting men to be taken seriously, particularly when dealing with opposition from females. Having gone through numerous traumatic experiences at the hands of females, all of which had escaped responsibility and accountability, I wanted something to be done so that no other men had to suffer. Apparently that turned out to be heresy.

I’m still opposed to feminism (female supremacy, thank you) and the irresponsibility/mediocrity of most of today’s females. I also would never date or procreate with a self-proclaimed feminist, out of principle. However, I realised I had to chill with being vocal about everything. Not everything has a feminist agenda, and this was never about a hatred of females (despite many good reasons to have one), but I could see I was getting in too deep.

MOHO4life! Or something…

2 comments in response...

  1. Observer says:

    This happens to every movement every created. People will infiltrate, the movement(s) will splinter, and then, in turn, either destroy/cannabalize itself or transform into stagnated, hierarchical echo-chambers where all expressions of self-reflection are seen as heresy.

    It is inevitable, whether it’s SJW or Anti-SJW movement, whether its racial or gender-based movement. It doesn’t matter what the movement is — it could be a country, a team, or even a gang. As long as it involves emotion and being perceived as righteous team on the side of good, it will almost always occur.

    I could write an entire diatribe detailing the Hows and Whys of this inevitability, but it’d be an irrelevant grain of salt in a vast, vast ocean.

    Instead, I’ll advise that you rethink MOHO, as it’s far too easy to anagramize it into something else.

  2. No Name says:

    I, too, left the MGTOW crowd. Over the years, they’ve become very dogmatic and closed minded, just like the feminists. My 2 major issues with them are 1) They deny that looks matter to women and continue to buy into the PUA community’s warped views on women, and 2) the way they shun involuntary celibates.

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