Unlike most other articles of this kind on the Net, this one is written by someone who actually is, whether being fed excuses and assurances from other people or not.
I’m not bigging up being repulsive to women, or being a perpetual celibate, as something anyone should aspire to be. However, there are plenty of guys in my situation browsing the web right now, and if I have a screw intact I’m thinking they don’t want to read yet another article by someone who has no idea what they’re talking about.
1. You have more time – and energy – for yourself.
If you’ve watched shows such as The Pickup Artist, or anything involving guys trying to be or are already successful with women, you’ll often find that most of their time is taken up doing things to impress women: things such as posing at – I mean, going to – the gym, hanging around expensive stores and making a point to be seen at hotspots.
But even if you don’t go by television or the movies: look at just how much effort some people put into attracting women. At the most basic, men are spending a couple of hours a night getting ready, giving themselves pep talks and trying to project “confidence” and “think positively”, before going out to see what they can get. And usually, if they’re not already successful, they’ll spend all night helplessly watching other men get lucky.
That time and energy can be far better spent engaging in activities that deep down you really like to do. A night out at a club where hardly anyone notices you, or an hour with some indifferent prostitute, could be replaced with something like a nice meal at a restaurant, some materials for arts and crafts, or a day trip somewhere if you like to travel – anything that guarantees you’ll get something out of your financial and chronological investment. And the ironic thing is you’ll often end up saving money.
2. You are not the father.
One thing not to be sniffed at too hard is the risk of being the father of some skank’s – I mean, woman’s – planned or unplanned baby. I can’t tell you how many stories I’ve heard of men being trapped into fatherhood by deceitful women, but I can always be sure there are men who’ve heard even more. You don’t even have to inseminate a woman; women have been known to poke holes in condoms, and – believe it or not – will inseminate themselves if a used condom is left in their possession.
Unless you ever get the opportunity to sleep with a woman for whatever reason, you can be pretty certain you’re not going to end up having to take a DNA test. Better yet, it’s one less reason why you’d possibly end up on Maury/Jeremy Kyle/the Steve Wilkos show.
3. You have more money for important things.
Many many years ago, when I’d tried to pick up a girl at a summer school, I’d made an off-the-cuff suggestion that having a girlfriend would be expensive. To my disappointment the girl concurred; she bragged about how she got her boyfriend at the time to buy her “everything”.
It’s almost a proverb that most women see men as walking cash machines, even if they’re not going out or sleeping with them. It usually starts with a small “favour” with the premise of intimacy or sex, and then a slightly larger “favour”, and more favours that get larger and larger, until the woman assumes you’ll pay for everything without getting anything in return.
All that money spent wining and dining these people, as mentioned before, could be used to further your hobbies or interests, be put towards further education, used as an investment, or anything else productive you can think of. At the same time, you’re not forced to choose between spending the money on something really important, or keeping some girl happy for thirty seconds (the equivalent length of a female “forever” – I used to think it was ten minutes).
4. You see women for whom they really are.
Women are extremely good at selling other people on an idea that they’re someone completely different to whom they really are. They’re known to adapt themselves to a man’s tastes, so they look and sound like the perfect woman for that man – but quickly revert to their usual selves when they’ve sealed the deal. For example, the supposed nymphomaniac who suddenly stops enjoying sex after beginning a committed relationship. It’s usually men who are successful with women who are vulnerable to the “sale”.
Men whom women find repulsive near instantly see their true character, because they’re not constantly being sold an image. Even though women will turn on the charm if they want something out of them (more “favours”), the repulsive man knows full well that it’s not whom she really is, because the two sides frequently reveal themselves. If they want to be absolutely sure there are two sides, they can refuse the woman’s advances – and watch her turn into a screaming, self-entitled little brat.
5. You have freedom.
Freedom from being concerned about some woman’s issues and problems. Freedom from relationship-related problems, such as parenting and commitment to someone who may or may not be committed.But most importantly, freedom from hurt. Although rejection is no laughing matter, the hurt that can come from being involved with women is far worse.
Most women will try to create an investment for a man they find repulsive, by finding some way to “get” him to listen to her problems – especially those involving other men. What’s happening is that, by investing his time by listening, the man is being primed for doing “favours” for the woman, because he’s thinking he’s going to get something in return. (Never so.) But if a man knows this woman finds him repulsive anyway, he’s within his rights to send her in the direction of her ex, or whomever she’ll end up in bed with.
Among other things, you’ll also have freedom to look at and interact with other women. Women seem to be very big on loyalty among women, and from what I’ve seen they’re very particular about the women their significant other interacts with, or even looks at.
Most importantly, you’ll have the freedom to do exactly what it is you want. How many women do you know who’ve insisted a man stop doing something as soon as they get involved? Just like with these “favours”, these things women want the man to stop doing start small and get progressively bigger – until the man finds he just can’t do anything right. Many men have been demotivated, become depressed, and have had their dreams destroyed by such people.
Sometimes women are like big business: not getting involved with them means not being tied to a one-sided, restrictive contract, with or without your knowledge. So it’s not always a bad thing if they don’t like you.