Clichés in Women’s Profiles – Part 2: Unattributed Quotes

Seriously, there were originally going to be only two parts to this miniseries, but owing to someone’s Facebook status this morning I had to add a third, which will go right in the middle.

In a similar vein to the copy-and-paste bits of text they use to “describe” and advertise themselves, women also like to add convenient-sounding quotes from other people, famous or otherwise, to try and sound somewhat intelligent.

You’ve seen me use quite a few quotes here on DREWspective, whenever I felt it proved a point or provided food for thought, but whenever possible I’ve always included an attribution. The difference here is that most women (and actually some men) don’t – as if they’re trying to pass off someone else’s wisdom and exact choice of words as their own. And the last time I heard, that’s called plagiarism.

One of the more popular quotes in women’s profiles as of late is the following, which was also the one that sparked my bullshit-ometer:

I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best. – Marilyn Monroe

I’m going to give you 30 seconds to guess what I’m going to say about this particular quote (Although I know you’re going to cheat and keep reading, because you’re a cheat).




So why do I think women love this quote so much? Because they’re basically suggesting, in no uncertain terms, that a man is expected to like them as they are, no matter how unreasonable, delusional or selfish she’s being. It’s basically another variation of:

im me n im nt chngng 4 ne1 n if u dnt lk it mv on

Apologies for the headache, and I know I could have written that sentence in plain English, but that’s basically the mental age of anyone who takes that stance: a selfish, self-entitled little girl (or basically a feminist).

Here’s another equally common unattributed quote:

You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth. – William W. Purkey

Apart from being one of those flowery, airy-fairy quotes that makes me sick, the underlying meaning behind this quote involves doing whatever you want to do, without any concern for anyone else. Because, as the quote suggests, that’s the “right” thing to do.

Some might say there’s a “pattern emerging”, but not me because I’m not concerned with sounding intelligent.

It drives me crazy when people post these quotes (obviously lifted from someone or somewhere else, because of the change in grammar or language), yet they have no idea or refuse to acknowledge where it came from. That tells me two things: they couldn’t come up with their own material, and they’re basically ready to jump over to the next convenient-sounding quote or song lyric that comes along – which to me suggests a lack of an opinion.

That’s another thing: when people post song lyrics. I understand that people have favourite songs, and they feel some kind of compulsion to tell complete strangers about it, but that’s what linking to YouTube videos is for. There’s no need at all to write the entire lyrics to the song out on a web page, unless you’re contributing to a lyric site.

Most of the songs people like to reference are populist chart-listed shit – particularly those ones you know about from performers like Christina Aguilera, Lady Gaga, Beyonce, Natasha Beddingfield and so on – which usually contain either a pro-feminism, misandric or pseudo-“positive” message. (Thank goodness I’m no longer on MySpace, because I’d be forced to listen to these songs as well.) But people who post song lyrics in their profiles and ads often won’t bother to list the artist’s name, which is plagiarism even if people know where the lyrics are from.

the party don’t start ’til I walk in

shut the fuck up.

Finally, those same kinds of people can also be found on Facebook, committing the ultimate sin: regurgitating some bored American’s conveniently manufactured script as their status, or sharing a page where such tripe exists. You know what I mean: those “i’m me, i’m a BITCH, i’m entitled to everything” posts people – and not just women – like to copy-and-post from out of nowhere.
(I say American because that’s usually where those forwarded “jokes”, chain letter emails and meaningless rah-rah posts come from.)

It feels like I’ve gone back to my original ranting self with this post, but wait until we get to the third and final part.

One comment in response...

  1. alan miah says:

    Another excellent break-down. Cannot wait for the final part!

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